The Key Questions We Ask in Love and Marriage:
- Are you really going to be there for me?
- Do I really matter to you?
- Can I turn to you for comfort and strength? If I am hurting or afraid, will you come to me?
- Do you value me for who I am? Can I be my real self with you?
- Are we in this together? Can I count on you to “have my back”?
When these questions come to the forefront and you begin to feel hurt and disconnected, it’s time to seek support! Your relationship is worth it.
These questions are likely at the core of the conflict, pain, and distance you’re experiencing in your relationship. All of us come into this world needing the security of loving relationships, and that need for a safe emotional connection stays with us from the cradle to the grave. When you fear that your partner isn’t there for you, that you don’t really matter, or that you can’t turn to him/her for comfort and strength, your relationship can easily slip into negative patterns that reinforce your fears and your disconnection.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can help you get right to the heart of the matter—bringing back the acceptance, belonging, comfort, and connection that you want to feel with your partner.
How can EFT help us save our marriage?
EFT focuses on helping you and your partner get unstuck from negative patterns and build secure bonds of love and trust. As this happens, together you earn the confidence that you can truly count on each other to “be there” during both the joyful and the difficult moments of life. In this way, EFT helps you create a safe haven within your relationship:
- a place where each of you feels deeply valued
- a place where each of you can come to receive comfort and strength
- a place where you can lovingly work together to address your challenges
- a place where each of you are unafraid to be yourself
With the help of Emotionally Focused Therapy, you and your partner can create a connection that becomes the foundation for a lifetime of love.
The EFT approach to marriage counseling promotes healthy marriages
Why should I choose a trained EFT therapist over another marriage counselor?
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a proven effective treatment for distressed couples. EFT is based not only on solid research about marriage and the nature of love, but also on research about how to help people change the patterns in marriage and establish loving bonds.
- Emotionally Focused Therapy is the only model of marriage counseling that has demonstrated both positive outcomes in couples therapy and that those positive results remain stable for most couples long after they have finished counseling. In other words, with EFT, results are lasting; your relationship can continue to grow and bring you happiness long after therapy has stopped. At Colorado Counseling Center, all of our therapists have training in EFT.
- EFT is also growing; new findings and knowledge from various fields (e.g., neuroscience, attachment/adult bonding, etc.) are continuously integrated into our approach in helping couples like you improve your marriage.
If you’d like to increase your closeness, improve communication, stop fighting, or renew the spark of early courtship, then EFT can work for you! Don’t delay—act now to take a real step toward restoring love, trust, and intimacy in your marriage. Contact us today for a no obligation, 15-minute phone consultation.
Emotionally Focused Therapy Testimonials
“One of the few approaches to marital therapy that has been proven to be effective.” —Jay Lebow, Ph.D, President, Division of Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association
“EFT gives a proven road map to the process of change in couple therapy.” —John Gottman, Ph.D, Bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
“EFT is one of the best documented, most substantive and well researched approaches to couple therapy.” —Alan S. Gurman, Ph.D
“EFT has achieved an astounding 75 percent success rate. Results are lasting!” —American Psychological Association