Category Archives: Families

Why Do We Argue So Much?! (Part 1)

Marriage Counseling Denver | Why Do We Argue So Much?!

By Kevin Hales, LPCC, (with contributions from Paul Sigafus, LMFT) Part 1 of 3

Here at Colorado Counseling Center, we work with a lot of couples who seek help with their relationships. With marital problems, certain topics tend to surface more than others—like sex, finances, parenting, division of labor within the home, etc. In reality, the actual topics don’t matter as much as how you resolve (or don’t resolve) these issues. This is what matters most in the grand scheme of things. Let me elaborate. Continue reading

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About Kevin Hales

Kevin Hales, MA, LPC offers marriage counseling as well as individual counseling for adults and teens at Colorado Counseling Center. Kevin’s clients find that he wholeheartedly devotes himself to helping them heal and move forward in life. To learn more about Kevin's counseling specialties, please visit coloradocounselingcenter.com/kevin-hales/

Why You Say Things You Don’t Mean

Why You Say Things You Don't Mean | Colorado Counseling CenterBy Joshua Downs, LCSW

Since well before my career as a marriage counselor, I have heard some variation of the belief that we must mean the things we say if we are saying them. In working with couples and individuals through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy, I have come to understand that what we say and even think is not always an accurate reflection of how we really feel. It doesn’t reflect the whole picture. And only if we take into account our whole emotional experience can we ultimately be kinder and more understanding of ourselves and those who matter to us. Continue reading

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About Joshua Downs

Joshua Downs was a valued member of the Colorado Counseling Center team through the summer of 2018, when he moved to Grand Junction to be closer to family.

“Save Me, Grandma!” – The Power of Primary Emotion

By Carole Vogt, PsyD

In addition to being an Emotionally Focused Therapist, I am also a Grandma. I have taken care of my first grandchild on a regular basis for the past year. He is now 18 months old and is so full of life and confidence when he is feeling safe and secure. I am a primary attachment figure for him. He depends on me to be there for him and I am.

The other day while he was in my care at my home something terrifying happened for him. Scared child needing reassuranceYou are probably wondering, “oh no, what horrible event happened?” Here is an example of what happens when a baby, a child, or an adult is thrown into primary emotion in an instant. It wasn’t a huge event —it actually was nothing from my adult attached perspective.

The doorbell rang.

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About Carole Vogt

As a counselor-emeritus at Colorado Counseling Center, Carole brought a great depth of professional experience to her counseling with couples and individuals.

Surviving the Trenches of Parenting in a Second Marriage

When I became married to my husband we both had teenagers in our home. Granted, this is the 2nd marriage for us both so there was a long history prior to that where of course we both had earlier ages and stages of children. We both realized early on that there were going to be challenges to our new union. We both had different histories with ex-spouses and that required many hours of discussing how we would go forward in our new relationship as a united front in parenting our teens. At the time it seemed effortless, we were  “in love” and our romance was so powerful that nothing would get in the way of us staying emotionally connected!

Romantic Love in Marriage

We started our romantic love relationship as just about all couples do in our culture. We were passionate about being together and had grand expectations about how our love would get us through anything. We believed that we would be invincible in our love, able to face any obstacles seamlessly! We talked for hours about our connection and how we both were convinced that our love was “meant to be”. We didn’t know how either of us had made it this far in life without the other. Our views were the same in every area; we had the same love for reading and for music and for hiking and even our political and spiritual beliefs were identical. This stage of our marriage lasted for about a year or maybe two.
And then we both realized our relationship was changing.

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About Carole Vogt

As a counselor-emeritus at Colorado Counseling Center, Carole brought a great depth of professional experience to her counseling with couples and individuals.